As The Rolling Stones famously said, "Please allow me to introduce myself, I'm a man of wealth and taste..."
Not exactly; the first is a lie, but the second might just be true. I've been a writer here at Literotica since 2014, with a body of work that wanders through a number of categories; but I'm neither a master of, nor a citizen in, any single category. I do not consider myself to be an "Incest writer" - to pick the busiest category on Literotica, just as an example - nor a "Sci-Fi and Fantasy writer," and not by a long shot, a "BDSM writer." Sure, I have some stories in each of those categories, but I don't define myself by any category.
Those who follow me, who know my work, might say, "Ahh yes, ElectricBlue, he writes long languid tales with a slow burn, and he weaves a spell or two. He tells close and intimate stories, inviting readers into his inter-connected worlds." One reader called my work, "a safe haven," which I liked very much, although it possibly told me more about her than it did about me.
I write stories about consensual, respectful sex, adoring of women, occasionally indulgent of men. I write with a male gaze, I won't deny that, but it's an appreciative one, complete with lingerie and lace and beautiful dresses that flow like water, worn by smouldering women who will burn the unwary.
This is by way of a preamble to explain why this short submission has been placed into the BDSM category. This is not a story (there's a link to one at the end), it's a request. Thank god, some of you are saying, is there a point to all this? There is. I've invited myself into your category with a little trepidation. Looking in on the category from the outside, an uninformed writer might sense (this one did, anyway) that the BDSM category can be a bit of a minefield for the unwary - revolving, so far as I can tell, around a debate about stories "correctly" portraying safe, sane, consensual activity, versus those who say, "But it's fiction, I can write what I like."
That's where my reticence came from - I simply don't know BDSM ethics in any kind of detail because I'm not in the scene. I've been restrained several times as a bucket-list curiosity, but that's it. My BDSM profile, high vanilla. I didn't want to enter a mine-field by writing about something I knew little about.
Backing up some (I have 750 words to fill, so please, bear with me), I'll explain some more.