After about eight years of a completely vanilla existence, my husband proposed taking on some spice to our life last year. The idea could not have come at a more perfect time. We stopped building a family with one daughter and after finally getting her on the routine schedule of elementary school we began finding ourselves with some true quiet time.
I have read more 'How To's' than I can count and we have teased and tested numerous ideas and requests between us but none seemed to come as naturally as a little bit of Dominant and Submission play. I'm not sure if we can claim a D/S 'lifestyle' but when it came together it came together quite well. We followed the normal protocols of safe words, elevations and drop considerations keeping our respect for each other while also becoming more and more open to the other's desires. Slowly, we discovered that we were becoming more compatible in yet another way.
An exercise I can recommend is one that we planned on our own but, to our discovery, unfolded into a human experience of unexpected discovery and embracement as a complete success for everyone...
I am part of a book club who regularly meets to discuss a chosen reading, authors, or future interest. It's our idea of having some intellectual conversation that sometimes evolves into good girl talk and time away from children and husbands. The feminine bonding is never disappointing and often a well needed break in our lives.
Our group is officially twelve in number but today we could only get five of us together which, during the summer holiday season, was about right. Normally, we schedule a month out to ensure the best chance of participation while juggling home and work schedules and the unpredictable unknowns.
We try to conduct proper meetings befitting the subject; semi-formal wear is agreed upon which allows us to enjoy summer dresses and sandals or flip flops while enjoying beverages and a little cuisine. Everyone contributes a well-choreographed pot luck to provide a meal to buffer the flowing wine that commonly results in us calling Ubers in good sense. These gatherings have brought us closer together and often also allow us a little therapy and honest confessionals that, if not just for ourselves, are healthy for all.
This particular meeting found us at my home on a sunny Saturday afternoon. The subject was 'Summer Island' which we had all been reading over the past month. My husband John usually excuses himself from these affairs but today I explained to everyone that he had elected to stay home on the other side of the house in privacy and work.
After about an hour and into the second bottle of Sauvignon Blanc, I noticed the first of our club excuse herself to the bathroom -- it was Carol, a housewife and mother of three of many years whom I had met through one of my husband's work parties. We had hit it off immediately having much the same interest and lifestyle at home.
As Carol came back to the table, she seemed razzed and stumbling...
"I walked in on John." she said. "I'm sorry, I didn't know...I just opened the wrong door!" she continued.
"It's OK, he is actually there for you to see." I replied.
"What?" The look on her face was precious.
"Yes, I was just surprised it took someone so long to discover him." smiling wryly.
"He's in there, by himself..." she stammered. "He's in there tied up."
"I know I said, it's our way of discovery and coming out; let's see if anyone else finds him now."
She looked back at me in disbelief but then the slightest of a grin crept into the left corner of her mouth. "Are you sure?" she asked.
"Absolutely." I said with confidence.
"Really? I'll give everyone about five minutes until I nudge someone else...is he ok in there?" she asked.
"He is great and has been looking forward to this all week. Trust me, he is more than willing."