It took me a long time to realize the impact that one day had on me. How did he describe it, like a story of how to have a relationship in only one day, one space of 24 hours almost to the minute? We met at a conference. I know that sounds so very clichΓ© the academics equivalent of a convention. OK. But this was supposed to be a bunch of writing professors not a group of rowdy sex crazed drunks. Actually we were all quite sober. The pre-keynote had just started and everyone in the ballroom seemed to crunch softly on their salads so as not to be rude. I had chosen a table strategically near the doors to make my escape if the keynote dragged on too long---like last time.
I sat with a colleague from my school, two of his friends from Reno, a group of graduate students from Canada, BC I think and two empty seats. Suppressing giggles in walk two people and the man asks if he can sit at the table. I said, "Certainly." I said it immediately; of course, it might have had something to do with how stunning this man was. He had prematurely gray hair that was short but in a playful way, a Jimmy Dean set of curls gelled into his hair on top, but it was his eyes, a creamy blue-violet, set into one of the most beautiful man faces I have ever seen. He would have made Orlando Bloom look a little on the homely side. This could be interesting.
He must have caught me staring at him because he began flirting right off about the food, his being late, and him being so grateful I didn't mind. I tried my best to focus on his companion but could not. She wasn't attractive or ugly, just rather invisible to me.
"My name is Gabby by the way, short for Gabrielle."
"Oh really well my name is Larry By-the-Way perhaps we are cousins," he retorted.
"Hopefully not more than second cousins," I snapped back.
"Yes or kissing would be out of the question," he continued the string.
"Perhaps we could make an exception. You do look a bit like me." With that he winked at me and another round of quick one lines flew across the table. Our table mates we noticed at the same time were not talking or listening to the key note, but instead were entertained by our rapid fire. As we finished the entrees he passed me a note asking me to switch seats with one of the Canadian girls. His "friend" said she had to get going and left quickly. I nodded in agreement and asked the girl to switch with me.
The closeness did not make him any less attractive only more so as I could feel the heat off his body and smell his unique scent. By the time we had tea and coffee everyone at the table had left but us, and it was obviously our turn.
"What shall we do?" I asked not caring what he suggested. I decided then that despite a husband and children and house and a stable, painfully boring life in that moment I was his.
"Go for a walk," he suggested and off we went despite wearing pumps and carrying my briefcase with a laptop and left over copies from my presentation.
Walk we did for about two hours all around Minneapolis warm actually for October there. He talked endlessly about his life, his ex-wife, his girls, his girlfriends all 20-somethings. One is a lingerie model he said, and all I could think of was my less than flashy underwear. Despite being in excellent shape and young looking for my age 46 (for less than 12 more hours) I decided right then the chances him of seeing me naked were near 0%. I found out he was about six months older than me, but still. He kept saying his psychiatrist thought it would be better for him to date someone his own age, he just pictured dowdy, short, fat ladies, not someone like me. I wasn't sure how to take this. My feet were so sore, I needed a break, and asked him to walk me back to the hotel.
"So what's next?" he asked.
"I really need to drop off my case and change out of these clothes too." I was still wearing my conservative presentation clothes a black skirt, purple wrap top, and a black blazer.