Ok, so, how much background do you need? I think you know most of it already, but I'll still give you a bit of an overview.
Sub Guy and I started chatting last year. He's from AFF too. He paged me one night, just one word: "mistress?" that made me laugh so hard I had to reply. And so we talked for a bit. I tried to convey the fact that I'm not a dom by nature. Not in the least bit. And he tried to convince me that maybe I am, just haven't realized it yet.
I don't know how it was that I kept talking to him after that first time. Guess there was something intriguing about it. Or maybe it had to do with the fact that he'd be willing to let me do things to him no guy I know would.
So, after a few months of on and off chatting and some web cam fun (Him: exhibitionist. Me: voyeur) it came to pass that he had a trip scheduled to the Bay Area. And so we made plans to meet. We actually scripted that meeting to a T.
Wow, I get a stupid grin just remembering...
At the time, I was a bit fixated on men wearing hose and garters. Not sure why, but it's a big turn on for me. Maybe because said outfit frames the cock so beautifully... anyhow. The script went pretty much like this:
He'd come to my apartment wearing stockings and garters underneath his civilian clothes, he'd come inside. Take off his clothes and kneel for my inspection. Yes, I laughed at the idea too. But not to his face. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Then I'd inspect him. And if I found him pleasing would allow him to shave me. Then I'd fuck him (bought a 'beginners bend over kit' form Good Vibrations for the occasion) in the ass until he came. Then we'd take a break, give him time to recuperate. And then we'd fuck.
He improvised a bit, used my personal shaver as a vibrator; and then proceeded to eat me. I highly approved of his initiative and praised him for it.
The biggest surprise was how easy it was to talk about work with him. He's in the same field. And he understands my frustrations. And I understand his. That was a big bonus. We also had a very deep discussion abut the merits of 'Sex and the City' and whether Big was always the good guy or not (It may turn out that this is one question men and women never agree on. I (and all the women I know who've watched the series) believe that Big messed up the first time. He (as most guys do) claims that it was Carrie's behavior that drove Big away); anyhow, the point is that I can talk to the guy.
But pretty much the night went according to the script.
So, that was then. In the months that followed, we'd chat every so often. Usually when he was in Europe, he'd be getting ready to go to work as I was getting ready to go to bed. Most sessions would end after he masturbated on camera for me, following my directions and not coming until I'd given him permission to.
One time when I was very, very horny and with no one around to help me fix it I actually convinced him to fly to Oakland for a day just so we'd fuck. We planned it for a Saturday. I got the worst case of the flu I've ever gotten on Friday. So I cancelled. And was very, very annoyed with the universe for it.
Another time he was in town but I had remained invisible in YIM and he didn't know how else to reach me.
And finally, he was here when I was in the middle of my big move. So I had to cancel (he said he was really busy too, so he was about to ask for a rain check anyway).