"I'm just beginning to think it will never happen," Kara said. "We've been dating over three years, living together for one, and every time I bring it up he says something like 'Let's be sure it's right for us' or 'What's wrong with the way things are?' I
really
love him and don't want to lose him but if we're never going to get married then what's the point?"
Kara was speaking with a few friends from her college "sorority", as they called it, though it had really been more like a low-rent coop rooming house. Some of the former members who ranged from their early 20s to near 50, gathered for lunch every six months. The "sorority" had been purchased for dirt cheap in 1934, and rooms were rented to students at the city's leading university: Usually those who couldn't afford the far more expensive housing near campus or in the "cool" fraternities and sororities. Most of the members of
this
"sorority" came from underprivileged backgrounds, and all had worked hard for what they achieved. The group at Kara's table had mixed lifestyles. Since graduation, Kara had been working as a computer programmer at the insurance company where she met Andrew. Sharon was happily married with two teenage kids. Christa had already been married and divorced twice (cheating prolifically during her marriages), and seemed always on the prowl for a wealthier and more prestigious boyfriend or husband. Then there was Belinda. As an undergraduate finance major she had supported herself as a dominatrix at a "house" that provided the service to usually wealthy clientele. With the income provided she was able to pay her way through undergraduate school and then a Masters in Psychology. Due largely to her work with people, her interests had changed and she was now working on a doctorate in psych.
"How's your sex life?" asked Christa. While Kara had always thought very poorly of Christa's constant infidelity and running around, Christa had undoubtedly had more "normal" sexual liaisons than anyone she knew.
"I think it's great," said Kara. "I love having Andrew on top of me, and he's ready any time I am. He wants it way more than I do, and sometimes wants wacky things, but I've been able to make him behave so far."
"Behave how?" asked Belinda.
"Oh, he kept pressuring me to use my mouth; you know, 'give head'. I tried it once or twice but I just don't like it, and finally after I said no enough he stopped asking. And he wants to have sex all the time, like every day, when once a week should be enough for anyone," Kara said.
"Wow", said Christa. "I'm amazed he's stayed with you this long. Don't you know ALL guys want you to suck them off, let them cum in your mouth, and have you swallow it? It's like 'Guy Getting 101'. A basic skill!! Me and all my girlfriends knew that by sixth grade! We put a lot of work into finding out how to give the best head to make no guy want to leave you so it wouldn't stop."
"Well, I don't like it," said Kara hotly, "and I could NEVER let a guy go in my mouth, much less swallow it!!"
"So he wants it a LOT more than you do, and wants you to go down on him," said Belinda. "Anything else?"
"Yeah," said Kara reluctantly, and with some embarrassment. "He sometimes tries to kiss me in weird places, like my asshole. Once he wanted to lie on the floor and have me rub my shoes on his cock to make him spurt. Another time he wanted me to put my finger in his ass and rub him off. We played Fifty Shades a few times. He tied me up, and then fucked me. After he came he actually went like he was going to lick my pussy with all his cum in it, but then didn't. He put his tongue on my asshole, but I clinched my cheeks together to stop him. Then he screwed me again, even though any normal person would have been ready to stop. Since then he's tried to stick his tongue in my asshole a few more times. How could anyone want to do that?"
"You know, my parents married right after high school and I think they were always faithful," said Sharon. "I remember my mother telling me her mother told her that if a woman wanted a happy marriage, she would see to it that her husband got whatever sex he wanted, or else he'd just be off getting it somewhere else. And she told me that sometimes men wanted
really
weird stuff, and if they couldn't tell their wives and get it home, there'd be some woman to listen and give it to them elsewhere. She did say that if a guy wanted something you just couldn't do, you should find something close or a substitute that would satisfy him that you
could
do, and then work at finding the best way to do it for him, and be happy you could. I don't feel disrespected when my husband tells me something he's thought about or wants, I feel
respected
that I'm the one he's telling, and I do my best to give it to him the way that's best for him because I want to keep being the one he tells. Of course, he wants to be the one I tell my secrets, so I also get whatever I want," she finished with a mysterious smile.
"Sharon's right," said Belinda. "Stuff with boots, getting fucked with a finger or even vibrators or dildos, like the ones you strap onto you with a belt to have your own cock, and licking you in "dirty" places is par for the course. In my business it's completely normal. I don't allow clients to kiss or touch my pussy or anus, and always have protective shorts on, but even then I can usually find a way to satisfy a guy who's nuts about worshiping my ass or pussy. You wouldn't believe the nice guys who'd much rather their wives do what they do with me, but the wives won't do it. It costs $200 for the hour to see me, and there's usually a $50 tip. $100 goes to the house, so I'm getting $150 for an hour, to let a guy jerk off on my pants-covered ass, or boots, or a maybe a strapon dildo I use to fuck him. I find out what a guy wants at the start of a session. Sometimes they tell me they want me to make them eat their jizz after they cum. Once they cum they never want to eat it any more at all, but if they've even hinted at it I don't give them a choice: I
make
them do it. I'm very firm, like squeezing their balls to make them eat it and telling them I won't let go until I watch them eat it to show they love their goddess. Even though they want no part of it right after they cum, they're completely into it after a few minutes. Once I've made them lick their jizz off my ass or boots or strapon they can't stop thinking about it. They can't get me out of their minds. It guarantees they'll be back, over and over.
"Once a guy called and one thing he wanted was to be able to lick a girl's armpits. You know I'm vegan and try not to use any artificial stuff, so I told him I didn't mind him licking my armpits for an hour, but I don't use deodorant, and I don't shave my armpits. I figured it would be a turnoff. He went wild. Now I see him at least once a month for other things, too, but a big thing is so he can lick my sweaty armpits. Every time he visits he is SO appreciative!! I get to make him happy, be appreciated, and make $3000 a year from this guy. That could be in their family budget if these wives would just let their husbands lick their sweaty armpits or dirty pussies or whatever they want, or make him jerk off on her boots or tits or ass every night she's not in the mood to screw. All she has to do is act HAPPY and flattered that she's the one he's picked to do it with, and work at doing it the way that's most sexy to him!! Those wives would have the appreciation that's going to me, and the $3000."
"How could something so stupid be why Andrew's not asking me to marry him??" whaled Kara with a mixture of desperation, incredulous anger, and horror.
"Maybe it has nothing to do with it," said Belinda disarmingly. "I deal with a special clientele. But if a guy won't feel like he and his partner are really together if she won't suck him off and swallow it, and then if she rejects the other things he asks for instead that would make him feel like they're physically connected, it may be why he won't commit. And if the substitute for her sucking him off is wanting things like letting him lick her asshole or heels, it can't be "fixed". It will never go away. So if the guy and his partner don't work it out he'll do without it, or bring it to someone like me, but even then he'll always feel like no matter how good friends they are, and how much he and his wife mean to each other, there's a void in his life and the relationship the two of them have. There's always a sad corner in the heart feeling like it never really found its soul mate, at least where the yearning for someone to have a complete physical sexual union with is concerned."
For the next few days Kara fretted over the conversation and her stalled relationship. Andrew wanted blow jobs. Christa said guys not only wanted blow jobs, they wanted women to swallow! Kara always thought a family had to be grounded in wholesomeness, not filth and perverted sex like Sharon seemed to be talking about. Sharon said you had to find a way to meet your guy's desires or work out a substitute no matter how off-beat. Then you had to focus on doing it the best way possible for what your mate wanted and be happy you could do it! And it was Sharon who had the wholesome marriage and family Kara wanted, not Kara!
After mulling it over for a week, Kara called Belinda. She still felt like it shouldn't be this way, yet could see that maybe it was. Belinda suggested that instead of focusing on how stupid or wrong what Andrew wanted was, Kara look at it from the other side. Taking Belinda's armpit fan as an example, if wanting to lick armpits is so dumb, is it smart to not have the relationship you want because you won't let the person you say you love lick your armpits, and let him know you're glad you know his secret and can give them to him? "If you just can't handle doing blow jobs, and could never let a guy cum in your mouth; and he's interested in licking your ass or pussy or anything else, make a decision! Whose mouth will it be? Yours taking his cock and cum, or will you give him the sense of connection he wants using
his
mouth on
your
pussy in whatever way does it best for him: Clean pussy, unwashed for two days, having your period, or whatever. If he's shown an interest in licking your pussy after he cums, instead of you taking his cum in your mouth with a blow job, make it YOUR hang-up!! INSIST that HE eat his cum out of your pussy, or off your ass, or tits, or high heels or wherever you have him spurt. Tell him it's what proves to