As Salam Alaikum, people. My name is Farhiyo Abdullahi and I'm a young Somali-Canadian Muslim woman living in the City of Ottawa, Ontario. I attend the University of Ottawa, where I study organic chemistry. I attend a mosque in the west end of Ottawa, and if you saw me, you'd think I were just another tall, attractive young Muslim woman in a Hijab and traditional long skirt. The truth is that I am so much more than that. Get ready for a real shocker, folks.
I swear, the moment a woman puts on the Hijab, people assume she's lost all interest in romance, sexuality, relationships and all the things that are driving forces in most women's lives. I am a woman. I am a Somali person. I am a Muslim. Sometimes those three different aspects of who I am clash with one another. I refuse to compromise one for the other. I am what I am. I am a connoisseur of BDSM, yes, the freaky stuff isn't just for white people, and I am also a budding dominatrix. Come into my world, and bow down before me. I've got weird and wonderful things to show you.
Every dominatrix needs at least one slave or submissive. Someone to play and experiment with. Lucky for me, I found a fellow Muslim to play with. Kareem Wahid is a personal project of mine. When I first saw the six-foot-tall, burly and dark-skinned Somali brother at an Islamic community event, I thought he was dull, boring and traditional like most guys from my community. Imagine my surprise when I later found out that Kareem swings both ways, and has freaky tendencies. Most Somali women would be turned off by a Somali man who identifies as bisexual. Me? I'm different. I can work with Kareem. That's why I have so much fun with him.
To me, the most boring men of all are the men who are afraid to experiment. I met Kareem at the Muslim community event and the brother approached me, we talked, and he asked for my number. While Kareem was talking to me, I noticed that he discretely checked out a fine-looking brother walking by and I actually called him out on it. Private of course. Kareem flat out told me that he swung both ways. Well, I was thrilled. That's why I decided I'd keep this sexy and freaky Somali brother for myself as a plaything and a friend. What can I say? I'm freaky like that!
Kareem and I are exploring the world of BDSM...and each other. You see, as a couple of Somalis living in the City of Ottawa, we walk a fine line. The Somali community is over ninety nine percent Muslim, and as such, deeply conservative. Sexuality is something that a lot of Somalis, both male and female, consider a taboo subject. The fact that we live in Canada only complicates things. Somalis living in the West who try to lead western lifestyles are shunned by their own people. Sad but true.
Kareem told me that I'm the only person who knows that he is bisexual. I am not surprised. If you're Somali and you also happen to be gay, lesbian or bisexual, or even transsexual or transgendered, you should really keep it to yourself. It's simply a matter of survival. When I began exploring BDSM, I mainly dealt with white people. I didn't want to deal with fellow Somalis for, though I love my people, I knew they wouldn't understand my interest in the realm of BDSM. Hell, even non-Muslims have a hard time understanding or accepting the BDSM lifestyle.
Kareem Wahid told me about Ali Hussein, a handsome young Moroccan student who used to be his roommate at Carleton University. The two of them met, and became close friends and eventually, so much more. Apparently, Ali was Kareem's first male lover. They lived together for a year. Afterwards, Ali returned to the City of Al Jadida, Morocco, to get married to a woman named Mariam and Kareem became depressed as a result of losing his first love. Kareem tried drowning his sorrows in the arms of others, male and female, but he never forgot about Ali.
