"Congratulations Jeremy." Carl said looking at the young man in front of him. "Would you like a few pointers on how to keep a young bride happy and faithful?"
Carl was Jeremy's boss as well as a close friend. Jeremy had just told Carl that he had proposed to his girlfriend, Christy, and she had accepted. Carl was almost like a father to him and he respected his opinion on almost everything but still this calm question caught him off guard.
"Uh, sure Carl," he replied.
"Women are easy to understand." Carl said. "It's just that most men never learn the secret and then they are surprised when their wife or girlfriend cheats on them. It's sad really because it is avoidable in most cases. Oh sure there are a few women who go into the marriage knowing they will cheat, but most women go into marriage thinking that this one will last forever. They believe that they will always be true, and then time passes and they find themselves in the arms of a lover. I've been married to the same wonderful lady for fifteen years now and she has never `cheated' on me and she never will. I want you to have the same thing, Jeremy, so I'm going to tell you what my daddy told me."
"Okay." Jeremy said not really sure he believed Carl. He had always heard that women were impossible to understand and now a man he said it was easy. Jeremy knew Carl's wife. Ann was a real knockout and she acted like Carl hung the moon. Even the few times he had been alone with her she had revealed in her actions and words that she practically worshiped Carl. If there was a simple secret to getting a woman to act like that Jeremy knew that he wanted it.
"The secret is that women think they want a man to wait on them hand and foot. They think they want a sensitive, caring man who is not afraid to show his feelings. They think they want Woody Allen in Tom Cruise's body. This couldn't be further from the truth." Carl smiled at the shocked look on Jeremy's face. "It doesn't matter what you look like. Oh being a Tom Cruise look alike doesn't hurt, but once you have a woman ready to marry you looks are not that important." Carl paused and drew a deep breath as his young friend waited. "So, are you ready for the secret?" he asked.
"Okay, yeah, what is the secret?" Jeremy asked trying to act cool.
"Domination." Carl said softly.
"What?" Jeremy yelped. He stared at Carl slack jawed. "You can't be serious."
"I have never been more serious Jeremy." Carl said evenly. He looked at his young friend and smiled. "Not abuse. Domination. There is a big difference." Carl put his arm around his young friend. "Let me show you what I mean. Tonight at seven o'clock come to my house by yourself and I will give you a demonstration. Then we will talk." Carl patted Jeremy on the back and walked off leaving the young man standing staring at his boss in disbelief.
At seven o'clock sharp Jeremy rang the doorbell on Carl's suburban home. Ann answered the door just before he started to ring again and invited him in. She was a gorgeous woman. Her long black hair flowed down past her shoulders to the middle of her back accenting her pale face and high cheekbones. She had green eyes and a smallish nose that seemed perfect above her full lips. She wore a tight fitting t-shirt that accented her large breasts and slender waist and a pair of tight blue jean shorts showed that her hips had the classic fullness of a woman who kept herself fit but was not too skinny. She smiled at Jeremy and invited him in, turning around and leading him into the house with a sexy walk that just begged him to stare at her rounded butt. Before he could stop himself his body began to react with an immediate erection.
"Good God!" He thought to himself. Ann was at least ten years older than him, at least thirty five years old, but damn was she hot! Carl was a very lucky man.
Ann led Jeremy into the living room where Carl was sitting drinking a glass of wine.
"Oh Hi"Oh, hi, Jeremy." Carl said staring at his wife's ass as she flowed across the room. "Like what you see?"
"Ann is prettier every time I see her! Man you are one lucky dude." Jeremy said without taking his eyes off of the sexy woman as she walked into the kitchen.
"Tonight you will learn just how `lucky' I am, and hopefully you will realize that it is not luck at all." Carl smiled.
Jeremy remembered the conversation that had brought him to Carl's house and said. "You mean to tell me that you are some kind of bully to your wife and that is why she loves you?"
"No!" Carl said forcefully. "Not at all. Domination is not abuse or bullying or being cruel. It is actually a lot of work and very loving. If you are going to learn the secret of a happy marriage tonight then you are going to have to discard all of your prejudices and everything you think you know about domination and submission because everything anyone has ever told you has been a crock of shit!" Carl pointed to a comfortable looking chair near him. "Now sit down, shut up, and learn something."
Jeremy had never felt this chastised by his Carl before. He quickly sat down and stared at his feet.
"Now when a man dominates a woman, who do you think has control of the situation?" Carl asked quietly.
"By definition I would think it was the man." Jeremy answered.
Carl sighed. "You are wrong. The Subordinate, or sub, always has control. The person controlling, usually called the dom, for dominant, only has the illusion of control. Now when a man dominates a woman who do you think is the focus of pleasure?"
Jeremy was a quick learner. "The woman?" He asked.
"Yes, very good. Now why do you say that?" Carl asked.
"Because I would have thought it was the man, but I was sure I was wrong." Jeremy answered.
Carl laughed and said. "Well at least you're honest. It may seem to the casual observer that the dom is only pleasing himself, but in truth everything he does is to enhance the sub's pleasure. Even when he withholds pleasure or inflicts minor pain to the sub it is all calculated to bring, in the end, more pleasure to the sub."
"So you're telling me that your wife is submissive to you and everything you do is for her pleasure?" Jeremy looked at Carl, still not really believing him.
"Yes, usually anyway. I am not telling you that I don't get anything out of it. Far from it. I enjoy the power and the pleasure I get from our relationship very much but when it comes right down to it, the whole reason I do what I do is for her and she can stop it anytime. So you see it truly is the sub who has control." Carl picked up his glass and took a long sip of his wine. "That brings us to some of the basic rules in the game. There must be a way for the sub to stop or slow down what is going on. How you implement it is up to you. For Ann and I, we use the control word system. Years ago we agreed that the words `Yellow light' was a slow down control word and the words `Red light' was the stop control word. If she is in a position where she cannot talk then snapping her fingers is the stop control." Carl paused again to take another drink of his wine.
"I'm sorry, I am a terrible host. Would you like something to drink?" Carl said in an even tone.
"Sure what do you have?" Jeremy asked. His mind was spinning at what his Carl was telling him. Was he just having fun at his expense or was he serious about what he was saying? It sure sounded like he was serious.