# Keyholder (KH)
**Keyholder (KH)**
Keyholder is a term for an individual who holds the key to a chastity device. The keyholder has a position of great power, one that is often taken on by a dominant person in a BDSM relationship.
Keyholders can be of any gender or sexuality, but most commonly, they tend to be heterosexual women who hold the keys to a male chastity device.
The term keyholder is often shortened to the acronym KH.
**More About Keyholder (KH)**
Because a keyholder controls access to a chastity device, they also by extension control the genitals of their partner. The keyholder controls whether the person wearing the chastity device can achieve sexual gratification and even has an impact on how and when they urinate and shower.
Many keyholders enjoy wearing the keys to the chastity device on a necklace. The visibility of the keys while hanging around one's neck reinforces the relationship between the keyholder and the wearer of the chastity device, reminding the submissive of the keyholder's power.
Keyholders should respect the power they have and never abuse it. It's important for keyholders to act within the boundaries established before the chastity device is put into place. These boundaries may include specifications about the length of time the keyholder will keep the keys and enforce chastity and whether the keyholder will make the submissive work for his or her freedom. Keyholders typically use the duration of their position to "train" their submissive to be a better and less selfish lover.
While their power should not be abused, keyholders are also responsible for disciplining their submissives should they act out or break the rules while wearing chastity devices. Discipline could involve spanking, taking away privileges, or other deterrents for bad behavior
**So what Is Chastity Keyholding then?**
Orgasm denial and chastity are other forms of control used for humiliation purposes as well as increasing the level and intensity of submission.
Chastity is about denying your penis sexual stimulation, and giving control of your penis & orgasms to another, your Keyholder.
Chastity is not about total abstinence because the chaste man has a release date and an orgasm to look forward to. The release date and control of orgasm are what make chastity work. In the interim the chaste will perform a variety of duties; daily tasks and rituals as instructed by the Keyholder as well as journal his experience for Her reading pleasure. Femdom chastity is very popular in the BDSM world and is requested often in any type of masturbation or orgasm denial sessions. Check out our chastity cams live
**Is Chastity Frustrating does it involve Orgasm Denial?**
The level of frustration from the orgasm denial, teasing, and tormenting without release causes a deeper level of submission for the chaste. The Power Exchange is a very intense aphrodisiac for both the chaste and his Mistress.
He learns that the pleasure and happiness of his Keyholder is his main priority. Male chastity is not merely about your Keyholder controlling your sexual activity, but whether or not She will grant you permission to orgasm for Her.
Learning that the energy and effort that was once dedicated to self-pleasure and masturbating are now spent paying attention to your Keyholder and Her pleasures is essential. Time spent in lockdown brings a clearer perspective, especially for a chronic masturbator.
**Chastity Keyholder**
He realizes that the act of masturbation is a selfish act that he has allowed to become his addiction and crutch for dealing with the day-to-day stresses that life brings. He also learns that he has lost his perspective as to his purpose in life, which of course is to be the best submissive to his Domme.
Dedicating his time, energy, thoughts, and attention to his Mistress with only Her needs in mind means you are submitting heart, mind, body, soul, and spirit. This submission is your gift. It is your purpose in life.
