Do Love Please Us and Our Bodies

Defining terms for purpose of clarity: lover: A close friend or companion that I have physical relations with in some manner.

Soul mate: A person that I am very close to, but I do not have sexual physical relations with this person in any form.

I use these terms broadly, I use them for Clarity and the benefit of others, but fuck labels... I believe we can have multiple lovers and soul mates in this life. The only difference is the dynamic of the relationship. So, for example, my brother-in-law, Is someone I consider to be my soul mate but would not touch him with a 10-foot pole in that manner. One of my best girlfriends, I consider her as a lover because I can fuck her and it not be complicated. I said I can, doesn't mean that I do. If that something she would need at the time, I would gladly give it to her and she knows it. Because that's the kind of friend I am.

Do you get it? Just so we're clear...

Some don't understand that my husband is my home and my lovers are my reminders. I love my roles as a mother and wife. They are most important to me because that's a huge part of my life. I will never give them up. When I took on these roles, I unknowingly gave up parts of myself and got lost in them. I was trying to get it right, perfect... I wanted to exceed the societal expectations of a wife and a mom. Naturally, I'm very passionate, ambitious, Determined, and Ballsy to a fault. Being high reaching caused me to lose myself. It was one of the most painful things I ever experienced, aside from losing my mother. To look myself in the mirror and not recognize me...feeling the lowest of low... and then coming to this realization was is beyond bewildering. How did I get here???

To be quite honest, my husband was and is there for support, but I'm also not blind to his self-work that he has to do. It's not his job to solve these things for me. Just like everyone else, this isn't unique to us...

So when hubs are too busy to remind me of who I am, and I don't have the strength to remind myself, my lovers remind me. My lovers don't replace my husband, but rather they step in where he can't. By supporting me emotionally they, in turn, support my husband. He worries a little less, in some ways.* that part is completely a theory, we're still learning and still exploring; very slowly.* lol

My lovers have reminded me that I am beautiful and smart. To show I'm more than just a mom or just a wife. I am someone special, which needs to be desired. They make me feel Comfortable to love them at my own pace and in my own time. The things I learned from them, like how to more communicate clearly, transfers over to my marriage. Intimacy is one of the hardest areas but they're very patient and understanding. I use the lessons that they teach me. And I support them in whatever endeavor they choose. I feel as though my lovers make me better by holding me accountable just as my husband does.

My husband is a phenomenal person, who provides for his family. He's not perfect and he doesn't need to be. He has a Baby girl to play with, so he happy and He doesn't have to be and give me everything. Especially, as I know that I'm more than capable to be myself. To me, that is an unreasonable expectation, wanting one person to give you everything and be your world... In case you haven't noticed I'm not one for romance or Disney fairytales IRL. (I love Disney movies I have nothing against them; I understand that they are just stories, that's it.)

I'm aware that some don't understand my view of what love is. The way I grew up, I would be called a whore or harlot of some sort. I would be shunned, Christian upbringing specifically. All I know is that love is not about possession or having a need to feel jealous. It's far deeper than that, and from what I can see BDSM with the right persons; it's a very good example of it.

We want your submission when you crave my domination We want you to be genuinely interested in our domination, because ours is different from the next persons, just like your submission is different from others.

We want you to feel special to each of us, her & him, to feel that we aren't just a Dom and a sub but we are special pieces that fit together perfectly. We want us all to feel that we love what the other gives us and that we are growing together.

We want that partnership; we want mutual adoration and care for each other. We never want to feel like We are taking something from you without giving you anything in return, We never want to use or diminish you, We want to empower you and make you strong, to make us all strong rather than pushing us apart.

We want a connection so deep they aren't even a dynamic, it's just who we are, it's how we express our care for one another, how we express our love and passion, you crave us and we crave you, and together it's bliss.

So this why One night stands aren't for Us, We've always found that the most enjoyable and memorable sex comes after significant time spent with a Sub Bi partner, being able to explore each other, figuring out all of the little things that you can do to drive each other crazy, and just knowing each other on a deeper level and being completely comfortable with one another.

One night stands don't offer me anything other than physical pleasure, and if we are being honest, a lot of the time it's just not worth the effort. We love everything to do with sex, but not when it's meaningless, not when we never even going to see that person again.

There is so much to explore and so much to learn about each other's bodies to truly offer each other the most intense experience and that takes time, but it's time worth putting in because in the end that closeness brings a whole new level of pleasure to your intimacy, they're the moments you'll remember and cherish for the rest of your life and that's what We are looking for.