In every relationship there should be respect. Given and expected on both ends. In Trish and Chris's relationship he made it very clear the one thing he really expects and demands is respect. He not only expects it given to him but he does give it in return. Every relationship should also have honor, trust and honesty. Even if the relationship isn't a D/s lived one these values should apply.
There have been a few times that Trish just didn't feel like doing things. For no other reason then she didn't feel like it. She didn't want to get up, cook, dress, do her chores or talk on the phone. Everyone has days like that. Chris didn't mind it under the conditions that they have discussed many times.
She can even have days that she feels this way and have absolutely nothing to do with her physical or mental illnesses. He still doesn't mind.
Those conditions are:
1.) She is to tell him right away. If she doesn't tell him before he leaves for work then she is to call him and talk to him.
2.) He wants communication. He wants respect. As long as she talks to him there is no problem.
Chris figures if they talk and there is nothing wrong she's just having one of them lazy days fine but if there is a time she needs to talk then the opportunity is there. It gives her a chance to be open and gives him a chance to be there for her. That isn't too much to ask and more importantly she agreed to this.
She has had days where it started off fine and then she just wanted to sit for a while and watch a movie or was working on a special project. He had always said he didn't care what order she did the chores as long as they are done in a reasonable manner. She just had to talk to him, communicate and everything would be fine. He has even helped with chores or had the kids take up some slack. The key was communication and honesty.
There was a rule of no computer until they were done unless he gave specific permission. The reason for this is because even when she didn't mean to, the time would fly and nothing got done. She agreed to stay off the computer until all the work is done especially dinner for the family.
Today was one of her lazy days. She didn't feel like doing anything. She didn't talk to him before he went to work about this. She took a long bath and still didn't feel like doing anything. She didn't call him. She watched TV for a little while and still didn't call him.
On very rare occasions he didn't call her before lunch.
His calls have gotten her out of a lot of trouble because when she didn't call him she still communicated with him because he called her.
Today he had to go on a job out in the field. He was in a building that the cell phone didn't work well and he wanted to complete the job. He wasn't watching the time. Even though he knew he missed calling her around 10:00 a.m. like usual he figured he would call her at 12 noon or 12:30 p.m. and check on her.
He finished the job and it was a big success. He got back to the office and he asked Gary and Wesley if Trish had called. They both stated no. He thought it odd because usually when he doesn't call, she calls looking for him worried. He still had a few things to do there at the office but he was going to go home and surprise her by getting off early.
She hadn't done anything all day. It was 1:00 p.m. and still nothing. She had gotten on the computer. She was only going to stay on there for a few minutes. She figured she would check email and get right off.
Time flew and the kids would be home in just a couple of hours and so would Chris in only an hour or so after the kids. She told herself she would finish reading what she was and then get off and rush to get something for dinner then tell him how she didn't feel together today. She felt guilty for being on the computer and knew she should call but still didn't.
Chris logged into the house computer and was going to get an invoice he needed and seen she was on the computer. He logged out without saying anything and hoped he was wrong by what he felt. It would explain why she didn't call though.
"Gary, Wesley, I am going to go home and finish this invoice. The original one is on the home computer. I can check on Trish also."
Gary said, "No problem boss, see you tomorrow."
Wesley said, "That's cool I will lock up tonight. Congratulations on finishing that big job."
"Thank you both."
Chris tried not to think about the worse. Maybe she did all her chores and even though it was the time she should be cooking dinner maybe she arranged something. She has done this before but only once and he let her slide.
They talked about this. She promised that if she even thought she would have a problem with anything she would call him. Even though the cell phone didn't work well his answering machine and office phones work. So does his pager for that matter.
He got home and quietly walked in. As he feared it didn't look good. Thing's weren't as neat in the living room as they should be but he let that slide. He walked to the kitchen and was very unhappy. The breakfast dishes were still not done. He looked in the utility room, there was laundry and of all places on the floor. He went further down the hall. She must have really been into what she was reading because she still hasn't heard him. His bed wasn't made. He got to the office door. There she was in her robe, her silk night shirt and on the computer.
"Trisha Marie Braxton!"
She nearly jumped out of her skin.
"Ohh God" She stood up and started to try and explain.
"I do not want to hear it."
"But Master"
"Ok I'll be fair, are you ill?"
She hung her head. "No"
She didn't address him properly and if anytime should be a time that she does it's now.
He figures she's scared and not thinking and let it slide.
"Are you working on something for the church or someone at the church?"
She kind of huffed. "No"
This wasn't looking good for her.
"Do you have a reason?"
She stood there for a minute kind of fidgeting.
He took her by the hand and took her to their bedroom.
"Are you going to answer me?"
"Yeah"
Now she did it.
"Trisha Marie, do you see who you are talking to?"
"Why are you calling me by my whole name?"
"I am very upset with you. What plans do you have to feed our kids?"
"Upset enough to call me by my whole name? You have never done that."
"Stop changing the subject. You were going to say something when I first caught you and now I am giving you the chance I suggest you take it."
"I was just having a lazy day that's all. I figured I would use some of my allowance money to treat the family to pizza since it was me who didn't cook."
She hadn't planned that but figured it was a good idea now.
He knows her well and knows how it goes when she has been on the computer so he tested her.
"Did you really plan that or was this something you just thought of?"
She hung her head.
"That's what I thought. I am very upset with you Trisha."
"Please don't call me my whole name, it feels like I am not as special to you."
"Just because I am upset with you don't mean I love you any less and you know this. I do not have to call you precious for you to know that you are precious to me"
"But it sounds better, feels better too."
"You are still changing the subject. This is your last chance to even try to explain for now. You will talk to me. It's up to you if it will be between the tears or not. Why didn't you try to contact me when you seen you weren't feeling up to doing things?"
"I thought I would feel better or catch up later"
"I believe you. I will even let the dinner slide because you would have taken care of it eventually. What I don't get and am not going to let slide is the computer time. Do you have an excuse for that?"
"No"
