I think most people would say that I'm wrong.
Wrong to choose the lifestyle that I've chosen. Wrong to be so demanding of my husband. Wrong to not 'act like a lady' and 'accept my role as a woman' β that is, a role subordinate to my man. His chattel β his 'blow-up doll' in the flesh β available for his pleasure, at his whims, at his convenience.
Fuck that!
Let's go back a ways.
My identical twin and I were born into 'old money'. Our parents lived a life of leisure, jet-setting to Schatzberg once a year, to Australia, New Zealand, Singapore, Taipei, Bangkok, Saigon, Western Europe and Eastern Europe. And my sister and I accompanied them around the world.
African countries too numerous to mention and South and Central America's countries.
Throughout all of these adventures, these sights, these experiences, one thing was a constant. Mom ruled the roost. And, rule it with an iron hand β metaphorically, of course β more accurately, with a thin wooden paddle and switches when we were especially naughty.
Mom is 100% Gypsy β and proud of her heritage. She was, as she told my sister, Tammy, and I when we'd reached our 18th birthday, raised by a mother that believed in female rule. That is, rule of the home; their children, and also their husband.
People marveled, she'd told us, at how her father behaved β impeccably β when in her presence, always respectful, always eager to please.
They never argued β her word was law and no discussion was necessary.
Don't misunderstand; mom wasn't unfeminine. Quite the contrary β always perfectly coifed, her sense of fashion reflected in both her formal wear and when playing golf or tennis.
Mom had taken gourmet cooking classes and could have been a chef in a five-star restaurant. She was an accomplished seamstress, her mother having taught her to mend clothing and design her own outfits β for fun.
In reality, mom always employed a domestic staff to include a master chef with their sous chef assisting. Her hairdresser would visit daily, doubling as her masseuse.
We didn't know, growing up, the secret behind our parents' tranquility; their enviable (to their friends who I'd heard commenting about mom's good fortune in having 'caught' such a perfect husband).
Only when we'd reached our majority, did mom sit us down and explain.
She told us of how her mother had taught her to tame her man. To literally bring him to heel. She taught us to understand the difference between 'training' or 'maintenance' spanking and 'punishment' spankings. The latter imposed immediately after her man's ejaculation.
She taught us of various techniques designed to reinforce dad's subordinate role in their relationship β especially in the bedroom. She instructed in the use of a prostate massager to induce pleasure-free ejaculations (to be used prior to a punishment spanking).
She showed us how to use a strap-on dildo to 'peg' our husbands, letting them feel the subordinate position of the 'fuckee' rather than the 'fucker'.
She explained the importance of always requiring them to lick up their mess after coitus and to lick our hands clean of their spend when we hand-jobbed them.