Cock Worship
Of course, the best way to start out is to find a woman who adores your dick and wants nothing else but to suck it, lick it and consume everything that comes out of it. The reality is that you are not going to come across her and you are going to have to train the one you have got.
As with all training, this is done by a consistent system of rewards and punishments that create a conditioning that results in your woman serving your cock with absolute devotion in the knowledge that all of the security, joys and comforts in her life come from serving it well and all her pain and worry comes when she fails to do her duty to it properly.
The system is very simple, but it must be done with absolute consistency. Every time that she wants anything of any kind, make her get on her knees, naked, in front of you and work your prick with her mouth until you are satisfied. When you are completely happy with the service she has provided, listen to her request and see that she is rewarded in proportion to the pleasure that she has provided. Once she has learned to associate all the good things in life with a belly full of your sperm and piss, that will be what she most wants to have.
Set a strict regime of service and rules that have to be complied with meticulously. A major part of your household life must be a period of cock worship at least once every day. What this entails depends entirely on what pleases you. My own preference is to have my cock sucked to comletion as soon as I wake up every morning. In the evening I like to relax on the sofa and have my prick sucked and licked for between half and hour and an hour. If I become inclined I will give her a throat fuck whenever I want to and at least once a week I have her drink a bladder full of my piss. All of these duties must be carried out to perfection. Any gagging or spilling of cum or piss must be punished. If ever she shows signs of losing interest of failing to put her full energy and skill into her work she must also be punished.
A woman who has been trained to worship your cock every day of her life is also a woman who likes to be submissive and who needs to serve you
A lot of effort, but what do you get out of all this? Well you will have a woman who feels safe and secure in her life knowing exactly what is expected of her and what she has to do to have complete security and satisfaction in her life. You get to have your sexual needs thoroughly and expertly serviced all of the time and to know that you have the respect and attention that you have worked for and deserve.
How to spank a woman
The first thing to be said is that spanking is a controlled activity. Whether it is for punishment, maintenance or just because you feel like it, the spanking needs to be done in a structured way. Spanking should never be done in haste or anger and without consideration of the effects.
Where to spank
The bottom was clearly made for spanking. It can take a lot of punishment without injury and presents a glorious sight when it is glowing red and hot. However, other parts of a woman's body provide suitable and satisfying targets. The inner thighs, belly, breasts and vagina may all be spanked with benefit for the spanker and the recipient.
The head and face are no go areas for spanking. You may give a slap on the cheek at times if that is your way, but it is not spanking and need not be dealt with here. Spanking should not be done above the crack of the buttocks at the back. The coccyx will bruise easily and the kidneys are vulnerable above that. With plenty of more interesting places to decorate with your marks, the back as a whole should be left alone. The lower legs, feet and arms are all unworthy of spanking. You may wish to punish the hands if she has been putting them in the way, but this is really a side issue and is best corrected by proper training in presentation and submission than by caning or strapping the hands.
Presentation
Spanking should always be on bare skin for three reasons. The full effect of your efforts will not be achieved if some of it is absorbed by clothing. You need to see exactly where you are striking and the effects of the strokes to be sure that your work continues to be completely safe. Finally you should have the pleasure of seeing the results of your work as you do it.
When she is told that she is to be spanked, a woman should be required to present herself naked before her HoH. It is a matter of individual preference, but in most cases it will be best to require her to present on her knees before her HoH to be told the extent of her punishment or maintenance and to receive any verbal discipline. She may also be required to collect the discipline implements and deliver them to her man.
Not all spankings are of a specific number, but where they are it is a good additional control to require her to call out the strokes.
When the spanking is complete, she should again present herself on her knees before her HoH and thank him for giving her the correction or reminder she required. The thanks may only be verbal or could include an oral thanking service.
Position
The traditional over the knee (otk) position is fine for a hand spanking of the bottom and it creates a close, loving contact that can be very pleasant. It is not really very good if you are using a spanking implement because you cannot get into a good enough position to deliver well aimed and effective strokes.
To spank any other part of the body and to deliver a sound thrashing with any kind of implement you need to go beyond otk. The bed is a very versatile place. Face down and with two or three pillows under her is excellent for any hard bottom spanking.
Breast spanking is best done standing or in an upright kneeling position. Ensure that the breasts themselves are receiving the strokes and they are not falling on the ribs. Special care must be taken if she is small breasted and in most case nothing heavier than a crop should be used on the breasts. It will sometimes be good to have her hold her breasts up to be spanked.
Having her lying on her back grasping her ankles wide apart is a good position for spanking the vagina and the inner thighs.
Flat on the back is fine for spanking the belly. Do not go as high as the ribs or as low as the hips.
Implements
The hand is the most convenient spanking implement and the one which everybody should start off with. But this site is for ultras and the hand will never be enough on its own.
The range of belts. floggers, paddles, whips, canes, etc is enormous and I will not go into them in detail. It is a good idea to stick to the ancient rule of thumb. That is never to use a cane thicker than your thumb. Swishy and whippy is better than heavy and thudding. Punishment is meant to be painful, but it is not intended to injure.
Some implements are better suited to some tasks than others. A belt or flogger is good for use on the vagina although some people like to use a wooden spoon. The crop is good on the breasts (remember the Story of O). Every implement that is fit for spanking can be used on the bottom. The cane should not be used on the breasts unless she is particularly suitable and you both know what can be done without injury.